Maria Elimovna Meshcherskaya

Early life

Princess Maria Elimovna Meshcherskaya was born into an old House of Meshchersky. She was the daughter of the diplomat and poet Prince Elim Petrovich Meshchersky and his wife, Varvara Stepanovna Zhikhareva (1819–1879), the daughter of the writer S. P. Zhikharev. In 1844, when Maria was not yet a year old, her father died. Maria Elimovna spent her childhood in Paris and Nice, constantly moving between her mother and grandmother. Abroad, Varvara Stepanovna, who was known for her lovers, later marrying Count Borbon del Monte, lead such an eccentric lifestyle that Empress Alexandra Feodorovna took her daughter and placed Varvara in an institute.

The Empress was forced to turn for help to her relative Princess Elizaveta Nikolaievna Chernysheva (widow of the Minister of War Alexander Chernyshyov), and asked her to take Maria in. When she was eighteen years old, Maria was received into the house of her aunt, Princess Elizabeth Baryatinskaya (1826–1902). But the Princess was jealous of her niece because her husband was particularly attached to the girl – some sources even say in love.

"It cannot be said that Princess Baryatinskaya spoiled her. On the contrary, she rather kept her in a black body. She took the last place in the house..."

Romance with Grand Duke Alexander

Not long after, her relatives petitioned and Maria became a lady-in-waiting to Empress Maria Alexandrovna and settled in the Winter Palace.

In the spring of 1864, at the court, Maria met with the Grand Duke Alexander Alexandrovich, the second son of the Empress. Her name appeared in the Grand Duke's letters. In June of the same year, he wrote to his mother:

"We went with the company to Pavlovsk to the farm and drank tea there. M. E. Meshcherskaya also rode with us on horseback and often visited Pavlovsk with us."

Gradually she is included in the company formed at the court from the representatives of the "golden youth". In addition to the Grand Duke Alexander, it included: Tsarevich Nikolai, Grand Duke Vladimir, and their cousins Nikolai of Leuchtenberg, Nikolai Konstantinovich, Prince Meshchersky, Count Illarion Vorontsov-Dashkov, Prince Vladimir Baryatinsky, and lady-in-waiting Alexandra Zhukovskaya. The youth had fun, danced, played cards, and more and more often Alexander tried to choose Maria as a partner. According to a contemporary, the Princess was "extraordinarily beautiful, wonderfully built, rather tall, her black eyes, deep and passionate, gave her graceful face an extraordinary charm. The sound of her voice was methodical, and the stamp of some mysteriously restrained sad feeling, very charming, was imposed on her whole being."

In 1865, Tsarevich Nikolai Alexandrovich died, and Alexander became the heir apparent to the throne. In the same year, the feelings of the Grand Duke also changed: from friendly to something more serious. On June 7, he wrote in his diary:

"Every day is the same, it would be unbearable if it were not for M."

They allegedly met by chance on a walk in the park, but soon the Emperor and Empress learned about this relationship. Maria Alexandrovna found this behavior of her son "indecent". On June 19 on the English road from Tsarskoe Selo to Pavlovsk, the Tsarevich said that "they can no longer be in such a relationship as they were up to now." As a souvenir, Marie presented her photo with Sasha Zhukovskaya with the inscription: "In remembrance of the last day in dear Tsarskoe." On November 4 of the same year, the Princess gave Alexander her self-portrait.

Later life

After leaving the Imperial court, Maria lived with Princess Chernysheva. In March 1867, at the Austrian court, she met the secretary of the Russian embassy in Vienna, the wealthy Pavel Pavlovich Demidov (1839–1885). On June 7, 1867, their wedding was celebrated. The guarantors for the groom were Prince Alexander Ivanovich Baryatinsky and Baron Andrey Fedorovich von Budberg-Bönninghausen (1817-1881); the guarantors for the bride were Count Dmitry Karlovich von Nesselrode (1816-1891) and Count Illarion Ivanovich Vorontsov-Dashkov. The young couple spent their honeymoon near Florence at the Villa San Donato. Demidov adored his young wife and surrounded her with luxury. Maria Elimovna had the most beneficial influence on her husband. According to a contemporary, after marriage, Demidov became a completely different person, his crazy spending and evenings in the casino stopped.

In the spring of 1868, before the birth of her son, Maria and her husband moved to Vienna in order to seek the advice of a famous professor. In Vienna, she often went to church, where she was seen praying in tears. Her pregnancy was difficult, mother-in-law Aurora Karamzin came to Vienna from Finland in order to support her son and daughter-in-law. The women became good friends and spent a lot of time together.

On July 25, 1868, Maria Elimovna gave birth to her son Elim, named after her own father, and died the next day from eclampsia. The doctors managed to save the boy, who was also in danger. On the eve of her death, Maria Elimovna confessed to her friend A. Zhukovskaya that “she never loved anyone except the Tsarevich.” Her husband found a letter addressed to him, in which she said goodbye to him and thanked him for the happiness that he gave her, which had lasted less than a year.

Grief-stricken, Demidov refused to see his son for several months, and considered himself the culprit in his wife's death. He starved himself and was on the verge of suicide. Meanwhile, his mother Aurora Karamzin took care of the little Elim. After meeting with some Jesuits, Pavel came to his senses and became very religious. He lived modestly, often took walks, no longer wore a tailcoat, and spent a lot of money on charity work. In memory of his wife, he established the Mariinsky needlework workshop for 200 women in Paris. In 1871, he married secondly Princess Elena (Hélène) Petrovna Trubetskaya (1853-1917) and had six more children.